Idiot's Guide To a Perfect Marriage

Here's the idiot reading the book..



Of course I know there's no such thing as a perfect marriage. The book was given to me by Ivy Wisco, I assume it's a gag gift (haha, funny). I have no plans of taking this book seriously (seriously). Quick history: It was bought in a second hand bookstore for $1 and it inspired me to "pay it forward" and give it as a "gift" to good friends who will get married in the future.

Bored one day, I opened the book. I saw that some of the questionnaires were already answered (second hand nga eh). The answers were sweet ha! Whats sweet about it are:

1) It was previously owned by the husband. (Wow, a husband who goes the extra mile to improve his marriage. That's a surprise).

2) He only answered two pages. Still, you see how sincere his answers were (sana lang because this is just between him and the book, magsisinungaling pa ba sya?).

3) The way he described his wife, he seemed so in-love.

read on..

Think Positive! Quiz
1. List your spouse's three greatest qualities:
2. What most attracted you to your spouse when you first met her?
3. What do you like most about your spouse's sense of humour?
4. Write down a description of the most romantic evening you ever spent with your spouse.
5. What are the positive things people say about your spouse?

Obstacles Quiz
1. Which of the following reasons best describe your reasons for buying this book?
A: You want to maximize the potential of your relationship to be the best it can be.
2. Describe your fantasy of a perfect marriage.
3. Name three unrealistic expectations you have of your partner.

Siguro they're a very happy couple and they bring out the best in each other. Nakaka tuwa ang pagiging idealistic nung lalaki, right?

If there's one thing that I "learned" from this book, its- answer questions from an embarrassing book in a blank piece of paper. You'll never know who will be reading your thoughts (and although she finds it sweet, it's also a bit girly..come on).

More Than 365 Days

I just realized after my previous entry, that the respectable(?), accepted(?), pamahiin(?) in our culture is to get married a year after someone from the immediate family passes away (sad..sad). I also consulted the chinese community in the office, in their culture, 2 years daw (tagal right? But there's a 100 day window that you can get married daw agad kasi the soul is not yet in heaven pa and still walks among us..or something like that- after 100 days though, you have to wait 2 years).

I tried looking it up online, apparently, it's not often talked about. Wala akong nahanap na "official waiting/mourning period".

So, why wait? Out of respect for the dearly departed. Personally, I wouldn't want to celebrate our wedding and then shortly, commemorate the death anniversary. It's awkward and tasteless nga naman.

I guess, this means we'll get married late next year, or early 2010. We haven't talked about it yet. I was eyeing July 8, 2009. We became a couple May 6, 2007. We're looking at the church wedding on Sept. 10, 2011.

So, that's 05-06-07, 07-08-09, 09-10-11.

Oh well.

When Tragedy Sets In

One of the most painful tragedies that a person goes through is a death of a loved one. THE Mr. Pavia passed away today at around 4am (Manila time).

It is a big blow on Paolo. He wishes he could have done something to prolong his dad's life. I wish I was there to hold his hand. It pains me that I can comfort him physically, it's hard na nga we're not together, how much more this.

I know he's trying to be strong now, he hasn't seen his dad yet. I'm just waiting for the day that it dawns on him and it sinks in that his dad passed away. I can't imagine how devastated I'd be if this was the other way around.

Lord. Please keep Paolo strong and help him get through this. Please look after him. I also pray for the soul of Mr. Pavia. You now have a new friend, Lord, I'm sure Mr. Pavia is happy.

Reast in peace, sir.