The Future Baby Pavia

I don't have much photos here pala, better catch up. So my first photo is the future Yim Pavia. Hmm.. not sure on Yim, I just read somewhere that it means "Smile" in Thai. Where I read it? Sa Junior Inquirer where they featured a dog named Yim. On second thought, I don't think it's a good start on motherhood, naming your son after a dog. So for now, let's just call him, Batang X.

So, here's the premiere of Batang X..


Tadaan!! This is one of the tips I got off the website: lovingfromadistnace- Making babies!! Virtually fun! So, the future baby Pavia will only get my lips (even that is iffy), plus, he will have grey eyes. Patay, how can that be if I have dark brown eyes and his is light brown..Fluke, perhaps? Infidelity more like it.

Heniwei, it's just a peg. Otherwise, a lot of actual kids will look like this and it will be like Children of the Corn (brrr).

Try it! I'm sure it would look like we just gave birth to twins, only from a different pepe.

Ang Sabi ni WIKIHOW, This is How You Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

Aber, isa-isahin nga natin:

It's hard enough to make local relationships work, but having miles, States, and sometimes even an ocean between you makes it even more difficult. However, successful long distance relationships can and do exist (OO, naman). Here's how to give yours every chance to survive and thrive.

Steps

1. Ask the important questions at the onset, to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship. Setting parameters such as naming your relationship ( dating, seeing each other, boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged)as well defining exclusive(limited to one person,) non exclusive. These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line. Example: "Are you open to the possibility of relocating if the relationship should become more serious?"or "What are you looking to get out of the relationship?". Stating your end goal or ideas will allow each person to maintain what they need. Check, LDR ito na exclusive. Almost engaged, (I'm sure I'm not assuming). I'm willing to relocate (and so is he). Eh di we're looking to get married hoepfully next year, hence, the BLOG.
   
2. Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible. Since you won't be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don't have to be long, in-depth conversations (though those should occur sometimes). Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask for advice. Use an instant messenger program or VoIP for real-time chat, or web cams for that visual connection. While instant messaging and e-mails play a large role in long distance relationships, remember that they can in no way replace verbal communication. E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget. (Even though phone calls might get a little too expensive, there are special cards you can buy if you are to call each other from different countries. There will be no problem with costs as they are very cheap. We highly recommend these from experience.) Remember that e-mail and even instant messengers increase the possibility of misunderstandings. Write love letters. Send small gifts or flowers for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. You may discover an advantage over others whose partner is close at hand - you don't take communication for granted! (Check, check, check: Email, Skype, Text, Phone calls.. wala lang web cam kasi I find it Big Brothery, eeew). But I send lots of pictures- wholesome pictures.
3. Do things together. Defy the distance. Frequent communication is a great thing when it can be managed in a long distance relationship. However, constant communication over the phone alone may tend to drag people down in the long run. It's important to do other things together besides the usual phone call. Just think... people in short-distance relationships do not spend the majority of their time talking, but rather doing things with each other. Try to replicate this by finding things to do together such as watching a TV show or movie simultaneously. For an extensive list of more things you can do with each other (or for each other) OMG, ang ganda ng reco on things to do! Will write in another BLOG entry though, mahaba eh.
4. Take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers: more time with friends and/or family, no arguments over toothpaste caps, the pleasure of seeing your sweetheart again after a long absence, time to mull your options (rather than snapping at your partner impulsively) before you respond to that email s/he wrote that seemed so rude the first time you read it, etc. Most important, being far apart gives you a chance to maintain your individuality - something that can get lost in the shuffle when couples spend all their free time together. In fairness, I have to agree.
5. Pursue common interests, even if it means pursuing them apart. If there's a movie you're both interested in seeing, watch it individually and then call each other afterward and talk about it. Read a certain book at the same time. Stargaze while you're on the phone. Set your watches to go off at the same time every day, and synchronize your alarm with that of your partner. Make it a point to think of each other when your watch goes off, and revel in the fact that he or she is thinking about you, too. Find creative ways to bond. Eeew, sooo cheesy.
   
6. Avoid the temptation to be controlling. People have free will and no one can or should control another person. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not make a difference. As soon as one of you decides the other is not a good match - or someone else is a better match - your relationship ends, whether you live 3000 miles apart, two streets over, or share the same bed with your wedding picture on the wall. You are going to have to trust each other completely if this relationship is going to work. Ok, thanks.
7. Talk about your future together. Assuming that ultimately you'd want to live together, discussing how you're going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain. OO, naman, dapat lang.
   
8. Know when to say good-bye. While this is tough in any relationship, this can be especially hard over long distances. When communication becomes one-sided or sparse for too long and for no apparent reason, when arguments (yes, you'll have them) become too frequent, when the whole thing just seems like more trouble than it's worth, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship. You have to remember that for a healthy relationship, no matter how far or close, you must be willing to let go. Ok, thanks.
9. Remember: things will get better with time, and even the relationship will become better. Have hope. Ok, thanks.
10. Visit often Try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible or as often as your budget permits you to. A relationship cannot thrive if the only thing you have is the phone calls. You need to see each other up close and personal every chance you get. The key here is to set up some "rules" about frequency of communication and visits and stick to them, consistency can help a LDR survive. Ang yaman ko naman kung palagi...
11. Avoid jealousy and be trusting One of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is to poison it with jealousy and drama. When you start a long distance relationship you must be realistic of the difficulties ahead. It always helps if you go in a relationship with the idea that everyone is innocent and worth of trust until proven otherwise. Don't fall in the trap to interrogate your partner every time he/she decides to go out for a drink with people you haven't met or he/she didn't get back to you right away when you called and left a message. Just because you are in a LDR, you lives won't pause. Your partner will naturally have a social life where he/she lives and so should you. Sure it helps to have your eyes open and not be totally naive but being overly suspicious is unhealthy for you and your relationship too. You should both maintain your social activity and be happy with yourselves. Tell that to him..
12. Be positive Staying positive and not focusing on the negative aspects of a LDR is essential to keeping your relationship blooming and your partner content. Being away from your sweetie is not all bad news. Use the opportunity of personal time to pursue your interests and hobbies as well as your career objectives. Another positive points it that long distance dating pushes both of you to be more creative, communicate better since you don't have "face-to-face" time and test your feelings. As long as you see the long distance relationship as a temporary state, you will keep your chin up and transmit that feeling of security and happiness to your partner too. Ok, thanks.

Long distance dating is all about a balanced relationship between partners; a relationship built on strong foundations of trust, understanding and determination to make it work. The two partners should be reasonable about their expectations and willing to cooperate so that this relationship can lead to a happy ending. If these parameters are taken care of, you have nothing to worry about. Ok, thanks!

It's Getting Harder and Harder..

It's been exactly three weeks since I last seen Mr. Pavia and I'm trying to ignore the time frame. Tama sya, five years can go by quickly, but not seeing him feels like an eternity. Why? Why? (OA execution, arms out stretched to the sky, clenched fist, shouting, WHHHAY?) Why are we waiting for gadawful one year, eh we can be together now? As in bukas na bukas din?

Eh kasi:
1. We both have to save. If I may quote Juday, "the wedding is easy, it's the marriage that you have to work things through".. or something to that effect, basta yan ang take away ko.
2. Corny man, kung corny, we've only known each other for almost 17 months, there are so many things we still need to learn about one another. Tapos, we've been physically together for only 3 months total. I beleive in long engagements (yuk, but true).
3. There are things I need to learn before I settle down, para I can say naman na no regrets, I've exhausted everything I wanted to do in life before I settle down. I know, he's not getting any younger (and so am I), but I have to craft other means to potentially earn in the US of A, paano kung walang kumuha sa akin as a media practicioner, aber? Gusto ko naman matutong sumide-line. Kunwari: a. Gusto ko matutong mag tahi; b. Gusto kong matutong gumawa ng web site; c. Gusto kong mag-turo (as in College professor, dawg); d. Gusto kong bumait, pero di ko magawa! Ching! There are several things that I want to learn before I dive and swim into marriage land. Self growth, ba?

Actually, yun lang naman ang top three reasons ko. As long as I haven't achieved those, I do not have a right to complain. I'm not complaining, I'm just airing out my sentiments (ano daw ang difference?) Well, airing out my sentiments make me focus on the prize. It reminds me that there are valid reasons for all these sacrifices, because in the end, mas masarap ang prutas pag hindi hinog sa pilit. Apir!

A's to the Q's

1. Mr. Pavia: what do you like about me?

.. I like that you look after me even if you know I can fend for myself, look after myself, take care of myself; pretty much do everything myself. You make me feel like a girl.
..I like that it's hard to make you laugh out loud. When I do make you laugh, I feel like I can do stand up comedy. (yeah, right).
..I like that you're ultra conservative and you give me sermons. I know I can be exhausting (and the sermons can get tiring din) but I know you only do this because you love me.
..I like that you're 8 years older than me. I respect you already just because you're older.
..I like that you say I love you right after you say good morning when we wake up.
..I like that you give me cheesy answers when I ask you simple questions like, "where do you see yourself five years from now?"- "In the arms of Ascon".
..hey, what's not to like?

Why do you love me?

I love you because you put God first before anything or anyone else but you put my needs first before yours. I found the person that I know in my heart will take care of me and will love me no matter how I look, smell and weigh.

2. Where do you want to live?

I want to eventually live in the Philippines. Things may change though. Long term goal is to retire in the Philippines. Wherever Mr. Pavia is, that's home for me.

3. How soon will you have kids?

Hopefully, God will bless us with our own little tyke a year after we get married. But it's His will. I will be super duper thankful when the day comes. Baby Pavias.. =)

4. Are you sure that it's him?

No doubt about it.

5. Where will you retire?

Sa Pilipinas nga. Sana- for now.

6. What will you do?

Still thinking about this.

7. How about your dad?

I would love to spoil my dad. I hope I get to when the means are ample.

Today is DAY TWO

I'm back in the office.

Yesterday, when I arrived in Manila, I was clinging on to the dress I was wearing, because it was the last piece of clothing that Mr. Pavia held in his arms (with me in it, of course;). I almost did not want to take a bath and change and just go straight to the office- yes, I went straight to work. I've got to keep my mind busy lest I go crazy at the thought of not seeing him again for who knows what..oh, yeah- a year (hopefully less).

Today, it's day two. I accidentally left my PC in the US, how dumb is that, right? I know. Totally. Ok lang, at least Mr. Pavia gets to gate keep something very personal that's mine.

Anyway, there are questions that I'd like to finish before the big day comes. Mga tanong that he asked me, I ask myself and my friends ask me. I won't get to answer all of them now (I do have to get back to work), but before I forget, I have to write them down:

1. Mr. Pavia: what do you like about me? Why do you love me?
2. Where do you want to live?
3. How soon will you have kids?
4. Are you sure that it's him?
5. Where will you retire?
6. What will you do?
7. How about your dad?

Madami pa, I'm sure I'll remember and answer each when I do, and when I get the time.

Going Home In 7 hours

Can't believe I'm in the verge of tears...must...hide...tears..

Leaving LA in 3 days =(

Sad.

Will miss my sweetie.

Brink of tears.

Not certain when we'll get to see each other again. Christmas? February 2009? October 2009? Bummer!!!

On the bright side, I'm thankful for spending a month with him. It cemented the fact that I'm with the right person. Can't wait to start my life with him and we'll be TOGETHER. (How cheesy was that? eeew).

Oh, well. All's well that ends well.